My husband and I were waiting at a traffic light, watching two 20-somethings cross the street in front of our car. As they slowly moved through the stripes, they glared at us and gave us a very insulting gesture. Why? We were just sitting quietly waiting for the light to change and the space in front of our car to clear. What brought this on?
Since this is not the first time in recent months that we have come across aggressively rude youths on the streets we could not help but wonder where this “I owe you nothing” and “I dare you” attitude is coming from. We certainly do not like having strangers treat us rudely. It made us wonder what part of our society is fostering such belligerent young adults. Where have the smiles gone and the, “May I help you?” attitude that I remember from my childhood. (I remember a bus driver once waiting for me while I ran into the house to get something I forgot.) How do we instill values of caring, compassion, and industry in our youth?
We know that manners start with training at home and I can only wonder about the family life of these abusive street youths. Did their parents yell or hit them, put them in the corner or their bedroom for hours, give them hated chores as way of punishment, or did they just ignore their bad behavior? Children can be so very self-centered, at times mean, and yes, they do need disciplining, but with a bit of forethought it is possible to teach compassion without having to resort to punishment. Continue reading







